Friday, November 20, 2009

resilience



Overview of Resiliency
Duncan Westwood, PhD, 20 Nov 09

Greatest commandment invites us to love God, neighbor, self with heart, soul, mind, strength. Pagans said, “God is in awe of all that you do, Abraham”—the first resilient expatriate.

Resiliency is an open construct, where words can be added to fit your personal, familial, and cultural walls. Paradise Road, a movie, shows the concept at work in a WWII Japanese prison camp; the interned choir of women ceased to sing when half their members died and remaining members were too weak to sing. “The more they hate me, the more I feel impelled to love them…”
Resilience is a dynamic and ordinary (or extra-ordinary) process of attunement, adjustment & adaptation across the expatriate journey; it includes a positive adaptive outcome despite experience of adversity. What began as a quest to understand the extraordinary has revealed the power of the ordinary. Resilience does not come from rare and special qualities but from everyday magic of ordinary, normative resources attained through our minds and bodies, our children, our families and their relationships within community.

Resilience is:
 an attunement to a higher sense of meaning;
 adjustment of self and significant others to hardship and trauma;
 process of adaption to people and place over one’s life cycle;
 negotiating transitions from one life stage to another as movements involving interaction between a changing individual and a changing context;
 allowing for many diverse roles that do not necessarily proceed in a given sequence.

Expats face a double-edged challenge to their mental and physical health: stressors are not only new and unfamiliar, but the coping resources that worked at home may not do so abroad.
for ex, Eric Lyttle, in the movie Chariots of Fire, was an ordinary and humble man who was willing to clean toilets in a Chinese prison camp; a man who was also able and willing to run in the 1924 Olympics in his own ungainly way because God made him fast and took pleasure in his fastness.

Resilience exists in the relationship between a limited person who is rooted in significant present and past adversity and risk that has to be overcome.

Vocational, violent, and vicarious trauma are “V3 trauma” across all expatriate cultures.

It has been argued that understanding how individuals develop transitions and choices is the crux of understanding risk and resilience across the life span. Past and present adversity: transitory, persistent, and chronically hard environments: each is harder form of adversity than the prior one and results in poorer long term adaptation.

Buddhist monk research show that one can move activation within prefrontal cortex from left to right, from stressed (left prefrontal cortex) to peaceful and pleasant cortical activation (right prefrontal cortex), with just a short period of “compassionate meditation.”

Resiliency assessment requires measures and benchmarks the define personal resiliency as:
 multi-dimensional,
 across a wide age range,
 multiple domains
 across multiple populations and circumstances.

Agreeableness, conscientiousness, emotional stability, openness, sociability are five attributes out of 31 within the resiliency research.

Ultimately the resiliency of another human being remains beyond the abilities of scholars to describe or define. Just as each symphony creates a particular and a special sound, so too is the marvelous, complex interweaving of each person’s bounded resources and limitations.

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Collapsing Bridges


Denny Morrow—The Parable of the Bridge—
Opening Plenary Session--Mental Health and Missions Conference, Angola, IN
Nov 19 2009

Five theories why both bridges and missionaries occasionally collapse
September 1st 2007 a main bridge in Minneapolis, MN, I-35 collapsed, killing 13 people…

Theory #1-- Stress Fractures: how am I dealing with the ‘basal drip’ of stress in my life?

Bridge: Bearing the load, day by day, hour by hour, expansion and contraction, weakens a structure. It’s like flexing a paper clip every hour: metal weakens.

People: We try to live a normal life when who knows what normal is? Getting unsolicited feedback about how I spend my time, money, vacation… wears a body. Family disharmony, child or elder care back home, financial stress, organizational squabbling…. All create stress fractures in the psyche.

Theory #2—Shifting Foundations: where is the still point in my turning world?

Bridge: Perhaps ground under concrete washed away. Moving water erodes stuff! From Grand Canyon to Chinese water torture, moving water changes people and places. Harmonic vibration is caused by moving water--metal starts to hum and breathe.

People: Maybe we didn’t build on bedrock after all? No one knows me in my sending church? I thought I heard God’s call to come here… There are so many changes in the central office… Nothing ever stays the same! At least 70% of people we serve are high on stress change markers.

Theory #3—Repairs under load: the surprise events that catch us off guard.

Bridge: Overweight during repairs, are you? For example, one newspaper reported on the bridge that: “the regular and consistent impact of caustic pigeon feces may have had a deleterious effect on the metal superstructure.” Reeeeally?

People: Childhood tapes that we impanel in our jury of judges may condemn or release us. Team members may suck the life out of me; my thot life day to day may increase or corrode my load. Well meaning short-termers may really add more weight than support as I try to bridge the distance between me and my community.

Theory #4—Design Flaws—working a plan that doesn’t make sense for me

Bridge: Superstructure not matched to needs of the terrain? Tough. There is no redundancy in being a bridge; no substitute bridge hired when things get tough or people upset with their quality of life. We are to be the bridge, day in and day out. Old technologies can jump up and bite us. The MN bridge was designed for 25,000 cars per day; the day before MN collapse, 85,000 crossed this bridge.

People: Unrealistic personal growth plans? Am I penny wise and pound foolish using a minimum bid approach to my spiritual or social life? I wouldn’t want to fly to the moon on minimum bid contractor. Least expensive turns out to be most expensive often.
For nine years Global Outreach mission agency chose to forego psych screening materials for applicants as an economy measure, and in so doing this agency was operating outside of their sweet spot and placed workers out of their sweet spot. They put the wrong applicants in right spots and it was a recipe for disaster. Get the landmines before they explode! Put the clinic at the top of the cliff and not the hospital at the bottom of the cliff.
Being a lone ranger is another design flaw; use a team and work together, being stronger together than alone.
If we get away, sharpen the saw, then that allows for healing in our souls—we ignore that at our own peril. Jesus didn’t; are we better than he?
One’s own authentic calling gets us thru the tough times; the lack of one is a design flaw.

Theory #5—Inspection resistant areas: what are my hidden secrets that never see the sight of day?

Bridge: on this MN bridge, gusset plates were not seen; they are the glue that holds the super structure in one place. Red hot rivets pounded into gusset plates become rusty and fatigued and became compromised over time in more and more intense load bearing conditions.

People: Workers around the world get fatigued and their gusset plates are hidden from purview of most others. Who have I given permission to tell me I’m thinking crazy? What areas of this life in missions cause fear or shame? Pressure cookers blow without stress relief valves. Connecting mechanisms that hook me to the Spirit, peers, family need continual inspection. We all feel like imposters in some sense--feeling the load of others’ unrealistic expectations about our adequacy, capacities, and potential.

More to Come

Niagra Falls: 750,000 gallons per second
I'm struck with the uncertainties of our life. Our house is for sale with no buyers at this point. We are leaving our community fo 25 years in a safe place for an unknown community in a possibly unsafe place. We are trading a known group of familiars for an unknown mission agency in an unknown part of the world with an unknown people group for an unknown task in an unknown language.
This morning Bethyl woke up anxious. She had a hard time sleeping last night in our Holiday Inn Express room along the freeway. We're moving on this trip from California thru Illinois, up to Minnesota, down through Wisconsin, back thru Illinois, and now along the road to a spot in Angola, Indiana. These are the latest of thousands of miles around the world that we've traveled this year by plane, train, car, rickshaw, horse, and foot. This summer we visited Niagra, as you see in the picture above.
Anyway, this morning when we were talking in bed, I asked Bethyl to rest her head on my chest, listening to my heart beat. I said, "this heart will love you till it stops. It's a healthy heart. However, we don't know when that one heart will stop; hopefully not for a long time. But even then, God's love and grace for you are certain. There's always more to come." She slept for awhile. We move shortly, once again, down this road of a long obedience in the same direction. More to come.